I don't remember much about this letter, except that I found it online somewhere, probably on Facebook. I saved it on Google Drive last year with the sole purpose of reading it later, unknowingly, it's a full year later. Obviously this was written by a guy. I'm copying this word for word as it was written with just a few grammatical corrections. So enjoy...
1. Just because a lot of dudes try to holler at you, IT DOES NOT MEAN THAT YOU ARE FINE!!!. Let me explain something to you. Most young men approach females who they feel they'll have the highest probability of success with, not who they find the most attractive. So in turn females who are 6-7.99 on a scale of 10 get approached the most. 8, 9's, and dimes get hollered at the least because most dudes either lack the confidence to approach a female of that stature, or think that their chances are slim so they don't want to waste their time. That's why you always hear about these beautiful models who spend their weekends alone. So in the cases where you reject a dude, and he says "I didn't wanna holla at yo ass anyway," there actually IS some truth to his statement. So ladies don't let it go to your head.....you're only average.
1. Just because a lot of dudes try to holler at you, IT DOES NOT MEAN THAT YOU ARE FINE!!!. Let me explain something to you. Most young men approach females who they feel they'll have the highest probability of success with, not who they find the most attractive. So in turn females who are 6-7.99 on a scale of 10 get approached the most. 8, 9's, and dimes get hollered at the least because most dudes either lack the confidence to approach a female of that stature, or think that their chances are slim so they don't want to waste their time. That's why you always hear about these beautiful models who spend their weekends alone. So in the cases where you reject a dude, and he says "I didn't wanna holla at yo ass anyway," there actually IS some truth to his statement. So ladies don't let it go to your head.....you're only average.
2. Despite what you may think, most of you females don't know how to give proper head. You may be thinking that you're good because he says so, but honestly, what nigga is gonna come out and say "You're not doing it right." Most dudes are just happy to be blessed with brain, and they don't want to do anything to mess it up. Therefore they take what they can get. Now from my experience, the females who give the best head, are the ones who were involved with a man long enough for him to feel comfortable to tell her what she's doing wrong. Here's a tip tho: go down with loose lips and pull up tight.
3. Only a very few of you are as mature and grown as you think you are. I've spoken to females of various different ages, and I always hear the same thing, "I thought I was so mature back then." So most of you won't realize how young and immature you are until that time in your life has passed. Some won't recognize how young and naive you were in highschool until you get to college, college until post grad, 20's until 30's...you get the picture. So live your life, enjoy your youth, stop trying to be so damn grown. Females always wanna be grown, until your ass hit your 30's, then you want to act and dress like you're young again.
4. If you are with a man who you know is not good for/to you, yet you still stay with him, you have OFFICIALLY forfeited your right to complain about niggas not being shit. Because in the process of you staying with that no good individual, you KNOW you passed up on a few good ones. So shut that shit up.
5. Despite popular belief, good guys DON'T finish last...they just don't have as much fun. Peep this message I sent to one of my homegirls.
"Good guys don't lose in the end, they just lose to the bad guys prior to the end. Because in the end, they have their life together with a wife who didn't make the mistake that most females do. Now the females are really the ones who take the lost. That's why you have so many single black females between 28-40 who long to be married. But they're quick to say "niggas aint shit." In reality, most females don't understand what a real man is until it's too late. They're blinded by the cars, money, greek letters, and other items of bait to attract women. And most of the time, the dudes who use that bait are the ones who are truly "not shit." All that matters is a man who cares about you, but that's hard to understand when you have all of these "fly guys" approaching. So don't fall into that trap, the good guys never lose, they just don't have as much fun in their youth."
6. Regardless of the circumstances which led to it, "IT DOES COUNT!!!" Alot of you females have that "don't count" sex. But despite what lies you tell yourself, pregnancy doesn't care if you were drunk, herpes don't care if he went limp, and AIDS don't care about the emotional state you were in when it happened. So stop lying to yourselves, because in the end, you're only hurting yourself.
7. I know times have changed, but the current state of black females and marriage has proved that the "INDEPENDENT BLACK FEMALE" movement is not working. It's been proved that the majority of marriages that last, are those in which the man was the prominent provider (aka largest income). Men need women, and women need men, if we didn't we'd be asexual. So kill that "I don't need a man" mentality, because the females who holler that the most, are the main ones sleeping alone, yearning for someone to hold them. By all means, get your paper, but you all need to learn how to let a man be a man. I recommend the book, "Black Women Need Love Too" by Pearl Jr.
8. By all means No means No. But real talk, you all need to stop that innocent thinking that you can lead a man all the way to the water, and not let him drink. THERE IS a point of no return. If you don't want to have sex with a dude, don't put yourself in that position. But to think that you can let a man get a few strokes in, and you expect him to stop just because you said so, is VERY naive. I'm able to stop, but most niggas aren't like me, so don't go there if you don't truly want to go there. And to make it clear, THE POINT OF NO RETURN IS ONCE THE DICK IS IN...I repeat THE POINT OF NO RETURN IS ONCE THE DICK IS IN!!!
9. Yes there is double standards as far as the number of sexual partners you have. But it is far more respectable for a female to acknowledge or just say that "I fucked him because I wanted to....period" than it is for a female to conjure up all of these excuses as to why the sexual encounter wasn't her fault. The reason is that if a female has a certain number of sexual partners, and she blames various different external factors as to why they occurred, she seems easy, weak minded, and gullible. But for a female who has the same amount of partners, and she unapologetically states that it was HER choice to do it, then a man can't second guess her mind state. He knows that he can only get it if she wants it and there isn't any chance of him 'tricking' her into doing it.
This is one of the main reasons there IS a double standard, because most of you females won't just come out and say you wanted to in fear of looking like a hoe. But that is, in fact, what makes you look like a hoe. Think about it.
and finally....
10. THERE IS NOT A SHORTAGE OF GOOD BLACK MEN AND ALL MEN ARE NOT DOGS!!! The real problem is that you all don't know what a real man is. Read #5 again. You pass up on the good guys EVERY DAY because he is too _______ (fill in the blank). And what the hell is too nice? You go on and on about how you want this man who will treat you like a queen, love you unconditionally, and do anything for you; but when you find him what do you do? Most of you either overlook him because you've been blinded by what hip hop has defined as a real man, or you DO give him a chance only to fuck him over for the nigga that's not going to be around next month. Me personally, I was a good dude in the beginning in high school, then I got hurt and had a bad streak in college. Now I'm back in good man mode and it kills me how much more desirable I was to females when I was a dawg. So to every female reading this, take a look at the dating choices you make and ask yourself, "Can I really complain about my situation?"
3. Only a very few of you are as mature and grown as you think you are. I've spoken to females of various different ages, and I always hear the same thing, "I thought I was so mature back then." So most of you won't realize how young and immature you are until that time in your life has passed. Some won't recognize how young and naive you were in highschool until you get to college, college until post grad, 20's until 30's...you get the picture. So live your life, enjoy your youth, stop trying to be so damn grown. Females always wanna be grown, until your ass hit your 30's, then you want to act and dress like you're young again.
4. If you are with a man who you know is not good for/to you, yet you still stay with him, you have OFFICIALLY forfeited your right to complain about niggas not being shit. Because in the process of you staying with that no good individual, you KNOW you passed up on a few good ones. So shut that shit up.
5. Despite popular belief, good guys DON'T finish last...they just don't have as much fun. Peep this message I sent to one of my homegirls.
"Good guys don't lose in the end, they just lose to the bad guys prior to the end. Because in the end, they have their life together with a wife who didn't make the mistake that most females do. Now the females are really the ones who take the lost. That's why you have so many single black females between 28-40 who long to be married. But they're quick to say "niggas aint shit." In reality, most females don't understand what a real man is until it's too late. They're blinded by the cars, money, greek letters, and other items of bait to attract women. And most of the time, the dudes who use that bait are the ones who are truly "not shit." All that matters is a man who cares about you, but that's hard to understand when you have all of these "fly guys" approaching. So don't fall into that trap, the good guys never lose, they just don't have as much fun in their youth."
6. Regardless of the circumstances which led to it, "IT DOES COUNT!!!" Alot of you females have that "don't count" sex. But despite what lies you tell yourself, pregnancy doesn't care if you were drunk, herpes don't care if he went limp, and AIDS don't care about the emotional state you were in when it happened. So stop lying to yourselves, because in the end, you're only hurting yourself.
7. I know times have changed, but the current state of black females and marriage has proved that the "INDEPENDENT BLACK FEMALE" movement is not working. It's been proved that the majority of marriages that last, are those in which the man was the prominent provider (aka largest income). Men need women, and women need men, if we didn't we'd be asexual. So kill that "I don't need a man" mentality, because the females who holler that the most, are the main ones sleeping alone, yearning for someone to hold them. By all means, get your paper, but you all need to learn how to let a man be a man. I recommend the book, "Black Women Need Love Too" by Pearl Jr.
8. By all means No means No. But real talk, you all need to stop that innocent thinking that you can lead a man all the way to the water, and not let him drink. THERE IS a point of no return. If you don't want to have sex with a dude, don't put yourself in that position. But to think that you can let a man get a few strokes in, and you expect him to stop just because you said so, is VERY naive. I'm able to stop, but most niggas aren't like me, so don't go there if you don't truly want to go there. And to make it clear, THE POINT OF NO RETURN IS ONCE THE DICK IS IN...I repeat THE POINT OF NO RETURN IS ONCE THE DICK IS IN!!!
9. Yes there is double standards as far as the number of sexual partners you have. But it is far more respectable for a female to acknowledge or just say that "I fucked him because I wanted to....period" than it is for a female to conjure up all of these excuses as to why the sexual encounter wasn't her fault. The reason is that if a female has a certain number of sexual partners, and she blames various different external factors as to why they occurred, she seems easy, weak minded, and gullible. But for a female who has the same amount of partners, and she unapologetically states that it was HER choice to do it, then a man can't second guess her mind state. He knows that he can only get it if she wants it and there isn't any chance of him 'tricking' her into doing it.
This is one of the main reasons there IS a double standard, because most of you females won't just come out and say you wanted to in fear of looking like a hoe. But that is, in fact, what makes you look like a hoe. Think about it.
and finally....
10. THERE IS NOT A SHORTAGE OF GOOD BLACK MEN AND ALL MEN ARE NOT DOGS!!! The real problem is that you all don't know what a real man is. Read #5 again. You pass up on the good guys EVERY DAY because he is too _______ (fill in the blank). And what the hell is too nice? You go on and on about how you want this man who will treat you like a queen, love you unconditionally, and do anything for you; but when you find him what do you do? Most of you either overlook him because you've been blinded by what hip hop has defined as a real man, or you DO give him a chance only to fuck him over for the nigga that's not going to be around next month. Me personally, I was a good dude in the beginning in high school, then I got hurt and had a bad streak in college. Now I'm back in good man mode and it kills me how much more desirable I was to females when I was a dawg. So to every female reading this, take a look at the dating choices you make and ask yourself, "Can I really complain about my situation?"